She had told me a few times before she would never leave, and would rather stay trapped in a loveless marriage if it came to it, than to walk out the door and divorce. She does not believe in divorce.
The "divorced" guy from Tinder that she's cheating on you with has changed her mind about all that. BTW, I'll bet a paycheck he's not divorced.
Basically, controlling my temper when my daughter acts out around us. Instead, I come at it in a much more compassionate way. I wouldn't yell at D before, but my patience was much shorter then than it is now. I am not trying to be loving and nurturing to W because she isn't in a place to want that. Instead I try to show it in other ways. Volunteering, church, etc.
That sounds great. Are you going to the gym because exercise is very important?
Basically, controlling my temper when my daughter acts out around us. Instead, I come at it in a much more compassionate way. I wouldn't yell at D before, but my patience was much shorter then than it is now. I am not trying to be loving and nurturing to W because she isn't in a place to want that. Instead I try to show it in other ways. Volunteering, church, etc.
That sounds great. Are you going to the gym because exercise is very important?
So, I walk every day (walked an hour yesterday) started hiking again, and tonight I start Muay Thai Kickboxing.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
The gym is very important because it helps you pick up hot women
That is sort of a secret hope. At least at the gym you already have one common interest.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
Although, I really have no clue how to pick up women in the least.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
She had told me a few times before she would never leave, and would rather stay trapped in a loveless marriage if it came to it, than to walk out the door and divorce. She does not believe in divorce.
The "divorced" guy from Tinder that she's cheating on you with has changed her mind about all that. BTW, I'll bet a paycheck he's not divorced.
Here is a question. If we live separate, and are filed for divorce, is it still cheating? Supposedly he was divorced for two years. I know she wasn't speaking to any men BEFORE she moved out. I know her priority was herself and the kids. I know that has changed NOW, but I do not believe she cheated on me while we were still together. If she did, I would have caught wind and known about it.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
Just got asked out for drinks on Wednesday. I am a mixed bag. I said yes, because I want to be able to detach and move on, but at the same time I am apprehensive, because I feel like this is betraying W (even though she says she wants the Divorce)
It is okay to do this right? This person isn't looking for anything serious. It's okay to socialize and make new friends and possibly form a romantic interest at this point right?
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
Just got asked out for drinks on Wednesday. I am a mixed bag. I said yes, because I want to be able to detach and move on, but at the same time I am apprehensive, because I feel like this is betraying W (even though she says she wants the Divorce)
It is okay to do this right? This person isn't looking for anything serious. It's okay to socialize and make new friends and possibly form a romantic interest at this point right?
Nothing wrong with it. Put this all out of your head and have fun. DO NOT talk about your wife or marital situation. That would be a huge buzzkill for the evening.
