I don't tell her I love her. I don't try to win her back. I have been detached when she is around. I pretend that I am very happy. I look really good right now, I am very active. I am showing her that I am motivated, loving and nurturing, without saying it. BUT, I am doing that, not for HER, but for ME!
Most of the above sounds great but can you expand on what you mean by being loving and nurturing without saying it?
Basically, controlling my temper when my daughter acts out around us. Instead, I come at it in a much more compassionate way. I wouldn't yell at D before, but my patience was much shorter then than it is now. I am not trying to be loving and nurturing to W because she isn't in a place to want that. Instead I try to show it in other ways. Volunteering, church, etc.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
