No argument here on that. Make sure you don't let her actions disrespect you. If she's on Tinder and with that business, you will have to decide what you will accept and what you won't. Don't talk to her about what she's doing on Tinder - that is allowing her to disrespect you. If she brings it up, cut it off and say that you're not interested. Sandi's thread on WW is a must read in your sitch. Have you read it?
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I want her to not give up.
Yeh of course, but you're too early in your sitch to see if that's the case for sure. She's in her own emotional space and you have to let her ride out that process and see what happens at the end of it. In the meantime, get to a place where you know what you need from her if she wants to recon and that you're willing to walk away if she doesn't meet them.
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But most of all, I want her to open up and TALK to me
I totally get where you're coming from. But right now you can't trust what she tells you and she's not going to be honest and transparent with you. You have to get to a place where you can hear her, but she has to get there too. Right now if she talks, just validate and move on.
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I don't tell her I love her. I don't try to win her back. I have been detached when she is around. I pretend that I am very happy. I look really good right now, I am very active. I am showing her that I am motivated, loving and nurturing, without saying it. BUT, I am doing that, not for HER, but for ME
