Not sure what else to do

[Jmstl]

[quote=Jmstl

I know she has met some people on Tinder. How far it went, IDK (She said he was divorced and offered great advice)

I am trying not to mind read. I am really am. I am trying to observe her actions.

Looks to me like her actions are telling you that she wants to be single again. You are going to have to decide if you are willing to wait around and be her plan B. [/quote]

I don't want to be plan B. I want to be plan A. I want her to not give up. I want her to not try to pretend the last 11 years did not exist. But most of all, I want her to open up and TALK to me.

But none of that is in my control. So I am working on me, the only thing I /can/ control.

I don't tell her I love her. I don't try to win her back. I have been detached when she is around. I pretend that I am very happy. I look really good right now, I am very active. I am showing her that I am motivated, loving and nurturing, without saying it. BUT, I am doing that, not for HER, but for ME!