Lost on how to save my marriage!

[joejoe1]

Cadet & Tread,

She hasn't really said much about our future. I won't trust what she says until we talk about our future.

I have stayed away from relationship talks. Anytime we do talk about the R, it's her who initiate those conversations. I can't really read the her signs.

She's asking for help, she's talking about doing things with our house in the future. She coming around me more. I have not reacted to much she is doing, I have kept calm in all conversations. I have been positive about everything we talked about. She's leaving her phone all over the house and she's has not been attached to it like she was before D day. She also doesn't mind having me around now.

I have been going to church and praying on a regular basis.

I don't know if I'm being lured into a trap for a big announcement are figure out if she is coming around.

I don't allow her to disrespect me at all. She told me Saturday, one of the problems she had we me was that I was never understanding of nothing she said, and she was afraid to tell me things because, I would be negative and basically disregard all she said. She also informed me she hated when she tell me something and I would get defensive about everytime she tried to help me out or corrected something I did. She also told me all her friends didn't understand how we even met because, I was a know it all and took over all conversations. I really started to realize that people didn't like being around me, so I have to agree with her on those fronts, I have been fixing those aspects about myself.

The last thing I had a really big problem with is the relationship with my kids. I was very strict with them and they were afraid to come and talk to me. A now my step son, my wife first born, is afraid to even be by himself around me. I have been working on fixing that.

Joe