But TBH, they will never be what they 'could' be, had W decided to work it out, and they grew up in a loving 2 parent household.
JMSTL,
What if your wife said "you know what you are right, this isn't fair to the children. I am not happy, but I am going to stay in this marriage for the next 20 years until are youngest is an adult". Would you be ok with that? Could you live like that for the next 20 years?
To be quite honest, yes I would. Because sooo much has changed with both of us (for the better) that I honestly feel that the issues she has brought to the table are completely resolveable. She had told me a few times before she would never leave, and would rather stay trapped in a loveless marriage if it came to it, than to walk out the door and divorce. She does not believe in divorce. I know that it is extremely painful for her. Hence why I think she is erasing. She is also trying to be supportive of me, and my new life because she feels guilty (her words). In reality, all I want is for us to sit down and have an adult conversation about our relationship. She says it is too late. I tell her it is only too late when you are dead.
Her saying "Well we are living like we are divorced, so we should just be divorced" is one of the lamest excuses I have heard in my life.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
