after an affair, the surprising things I have seen are 1) when a LBSer becomes the WAS
or 2) when the WAS returns but then decides that the LBS will never let go of their transgression or let them live it down (you might be surprised how common it is for spouses to throw the As in the spouse's face b/c the LBS did not really forgive it)
and then the WAS leaves again, for good.
You have to navigate this carefully.
Your wife wanted a divorce only one month ago, right? And this whole thing is less than 90 days long?
Here's the thing. If you do not believe YOU can get past this ever, then end it now.
Dig deep to decide this^^ and go for it. I would pass no judgement on that choice.
But if you are really interested in riding this out - then you need to prepare for a much longer time period for resolution and restoration. Riding it out takes longer than you expect.
A lot longer.
Hang in there
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
