WAS Rushing into Legal Filings

[FizzSer]

Gave my W my first boundary a few days back.

At the end of our email exchange about trying to get her to halt pending litigation, I said that all future communication would be by phone, and nothing by text/email.

She's since asked via email for our S for a day I normally have him. She's also since via email said I should 'email her for a few things like clothes' (just knick knacks and help), disregarding what I previously said.

I called her to discuss the day she wants as the schedule she proposed doesn't work but I'm happy to see if we can come up with something that does. Left a voicemail about it. Later got an email saying she'd prefer to discuss by email.

So I called back a few hours later and got voicemail, leaving this message (which I wrote out and prepared before hand):


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Hi, Hope your day has been well!

I got your email, and thank you for sharing your preference and I understand. I also feel you've misunderstood something I said in a previous email as I've received a few emails about you disregarding something.

I had stated that I will not be communicating by email or text except for document exchange until legal action is over. This is a boundary of mine that I will not be violating. I will also be extending this to voicemail and any other recordable communication as long as there is pending litigation of any type. The exception will be document exchange, picture exchange, links, and potentially communication specifically around our relationship and litigation -- and of course any emergencies regarding drop-off/exchange or medical. I will be extending this to any record-able communication after this voicemail, so you will not be getting a voicemail again.

You are free to continue to communicate by email, but I will not be participating. This is a boundary I am setting about my behaviour and I will not be violating it.

I encourage you to state your own boundaries to feel safe by phone to make this work. For example, if at any point you are feeling disrespected, please feel free to hang-up on me. The last thing I want to do is disrespect you during these phone calls like I did a few nights ago.

Again, I'm more than happy to accommodate an extra day with our S, and also hope you'll help me understand your boundaries.

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