I read your kids messages and wow. My girls say the same thing. they wont accept anything from my XW. If they cant have what they lost they don't want anything else. No half/part time/friend of a person.. they want a mom.
Your added message is right on. from a parent it is gross. My XW wanted the girls to show her how to twerk. lol. that's just wrong. Also if they wanted pot to get it from her. So she is a pusher now.
You are doing it right. Guiding your kids to a better understanding. Having boundaries and their own boundaries respected. They will grow and be stronger and better adults than most. Hats of to you LoisB.
M51 XW43 (38 at bd) BD1 MAY 30 2015 BD2 JUNE 25 2015 by text moved out Aug 2 2015 left both Daughters 13 and 15 (now 18-20) Her divorce Final July 26 2016 Last time she saw her kids Aug 2 2015