He's gone for good isn't he?

[AndrewP]

Devvo - thanks for the visit over to my thread. I just had a quick read-through of your. I'm so sorry you are here.

Don't get me wrong - H is a great guy. If you met him you'd likely think so too.

I used to cry buckets. Now it's less, but I still shed tears over him.

Crazy huh?

Devvo - Yes - you are indeed crazy

`Oh, you can't help that,' said the Cat: `we're all mad here. I'm
mad. You're mad.'

`How do you know I'm mad?' said Alice.

`You must be,' said the Cat, `or you wouldn't have come here.'

So - we're all mad here as we journey through the land of the Jabberwock.

In many ways you are perhaps where I was quite a while ago emotionally. You are still hoping and I am sad to say that I gave that up quite some time ago. So - I may be more than a bit of a wet blanket. I do have a bit of a 2X4 for you but it's wrapped up in the wet blanket

You are spending time speculating on if his relationship with his current woman started before or after he left. Realistically that's immaterial. You have a new person in your life who brings you Joy but and that is fabulous but you also are hoping that your hold H will return to you. You need to ask yourself if you are being fair to your new guy or not. The fact that your former H is upset by this relationship isn't necessarily an indication that he wants to come back to you, just that he's offended that you appear to have moved on.

You may want to spend some more time over on the MLC threads which is where your H very likely is on his own journey that is separate from yours. There's a wonderful woman named Job who is moderator there - not that Cadet is any slouch either - but read up on some threads especially some of us who have been on this track for a while. I'd suggest ignoring mine - especially the older threads. I had an awful lot of drama and boy oh boy was I confused - and probably still am.

There are some current posters like Westo who is a lovely kind-hearted woman still in the midst of her journey and people like CaliGuy who is quite a way farther along than I. Check the homework there as well. There's a lot of very good reading especially in the AmyC posts.

Anything with the name Jack_3_Beans on it is pure gold. He was such a support to me and I still get teary remembering his kindness and patience with me. We lost him a while ago. He was a giant here with a very blunt way with a 2X4 that was always meant in a kind way. I miss him so very much.

Best of luck to you as you go on your journey. One thing to remember though. You are on your journey and he is on his. They are separate journeys and no one knows what anyone's final destination may be.

((Devvo))