I'm in the final stages of buying a place of my own - we're closing in a few days. This was my second goal after getting a decently paid job, and I've achieved both. After my offer was accepted, I went through a strange spell of something that almost felt like depression for a couple of weeks. It's not unusual, I read, after achieving a big goal.
The place I'm buying has 2 bedrooms and 2 full baths, so I can have a roommate, or rent it out to 2 roommates if I don't live there myself. They also allow for a dog my dog's size (hard to find). I'm so happy to make my own financial decisions - I'll be paying the condo off in 15 years so I can retire without a mortgage. My credit has gone up by over 100 points since I got separated!
My relationship is going pretty well. It's complex and has many challenges, but rewarding and safe. I have doubts and fears, and so has he - so we're taking it slowly, but with the clear goal of making this a permanent relationship. We are having discussions about living together, what it would mean for his daughter, how we would do it financially, etc. We've known each other for a year now, and dated for 9 months. It's a choice every day to stay together and work on the relationship.
My job is still taking most of my energy, and I don't know if I can keep it up. Hopefully I'll get more used to it and have more energy on the weekends to work on my art, now when I get a second bedroom to set up as a studio!
Back pain is taking me away from the computer for now... I'll be back later.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
