I'm writing this off line at home after reading up to yesterday's posts, so I'm risking being a bit untimely with this, but I just didn't have as much time as I wished to post yesterday.
You are an amazing woman and even tho you may not realize it now ... you have already become pillar of strength ... in that you are always strive to become a better PnB. Weightwatchers, Graduate program, creating your dream house, building a wonderful M, and a being career oriented too ... as the slogan says ... "You've come a long way, baby!" ... from feeling like you withering at the vine to bountiful and brilliantly colored blossoms. To "watch" you on your journey from PnT to PnB, continues to inspire me to believe that one day CAW can see that she can transform herself from for withering soul to such vibrancy she once had within our M.
I'm sorry to hear about your new boss, not only because of the current stresses he has created, but because I know how fond you were of your former boss for the way he supported your career at the University. I have to agree with you and the ladies, at best his intentions do seem suspicious in nature, especially after yesterday's phone conversation. I get the sense that he will continue to push until he knows he has hit a boundary. In harassment (not just sexual) prevention training, they state that anyone has the right to state when they are uncomfortable with another's behavior. Upon notification, the "offender" has by law the obligation to cease that behavior and if repeats it, is considered legally as harassment.
I would advise using some the tools you have learned here and state how you feel using only "I" statements and simply put. Something like, "I know we need some time to get to know one another in a working environment, so along those lines, I feel I need to let you know I get uncomfortable when you ...[and state the specifics]. I'm looking forward to working you and wish there to be no apprehension as we work together."
I remember how you had to face adversity with your former, former boss, when she was giving you a hard time and you triumphed. I have faith that you will succeed again. You should too. I also like the suggestion of bringing up mention of H whenever appropriate. It will send the message that you are very committed to H, so hopefully shuts any door boss might be thinking about in that direction
It sounds like its going great between you & H. Congrats on H's new job. I hope he sees more potential in it than where he had been and I picked up on how H choose to decline staying away for six weeks.
... and just a general thought on how to boost PMA ... Do something different. Something you would not normally do. Even something as simple a spending some time on a park bench on a beautiful spring day watching birds and people go by, if you have not done so before. Pop into a store you haven't been in before. Eat at a new restaurant. Visit some local tourist places in your "backyard" that you haven't been to yet, etc... Actually, I mentioned this before to Dagny, by doing things you haven't done before in your local area, its like go on vacation without actually going anywhere, so we can do it at anytime ... and we know how vacations boost the ole PMA.
Well have to get ready to take CAW to the doc. Hopefully today, we will be able to shed some light on what is causing her headaches.
