Treasur, I agree, but that's where I think things will start to go south. He's convinced this is "fair" and when I possibly don't agree, he's just going to see it as me being vindictive because he doesn't want the marriage. If I'm concerned he'd see it this way, clearly I don't want him to believe that. Who knows, maybe it is fair (doubt it), but you can't offer numbers based on not much fact.
He may well take them that way, LAJar, but your first job now is to stop caring about his opinion of you. He will think and feel what he does, regardless of any effort you make to influence him. As long as YOU know you are not being vindictive or petty, that's all that matters.
He has created this situation; his choice. You need to treat it as business (which is hard, I know) but let your L guide you. Right now, it is possible that your H's mindset is so out of whack that you could offer him the shirt off your back and he'd complain.
Me: 53 H:38 T:20 M:14 BD ILYB etc 10/15, H diagnosed severe depression S 1/16 PA 4/16 H filed 1/17
