Not sure what else to do

[Maika]

Definitely do that. I always look good when I am going to see W for whatever reason. Every single time she has noticed and few times commented.

[Jmstl]

Perhaps it is time for a new wardrobe. Ditch some of the T-shirts and pick up a few more dress/polo's.

[TBSakaJ9]

Upgrading the threads is a must! It will help with your confidence.

[Jmstl]

New threads for sure. No time for a haircut before she shows up.

I start kickboxing Monday (different gym)

How long does it take to make peace with the situation?

I know with the upcoming divorce hearing, it is stressing me out as well, because I so do not want this.

I am praying for some sort of miracle, but my expectation is that the MR will not change and I will be divorced in probably a month.

[Jmstl]

What do you all think of that separation layout?

I know she has basically changed the rules of the game to a divorce and doesn't even want to try, but is that layout something I should still keep in mind?

[Jmstl]

Bought a fitbit tonight. Could have bought a TV or computer but decided to do something healthy

[Jim1234]

Update your look with some new threads.

But this is important...... Don't do it for her, or so "she sees you in them". Do it for you, because otherwise she'll see right through it as the manipulative tactic that it is.

Good for you for starting to kickbox at another gym.

[Maika]

How did the pick up go?

I basically purged my wardrobe - it was a long time coming. I picked up new clothes for work and life (my style is very street urban wear). And I did it for me and my own sense of style, not for her.

I feel awesome every day just from dressing exactly how I want to and looking supa' fly. My professional gear is also unique and it makes me feel very confident at work every day too now. I also picked up a cologne that I haven't in many years, but I've always really liked.

So, do that. It is a small thing but it will give you a good confidence boost.

Now I am just working to lose some more weight and so the clothes will look even better. Get a new haircut. Change up your appearance to what makes you feel good. I also shaved my beard and going clean shaven - which makes me look a lot younger and I am liking it. I will grow it out in winter, but I am going to take good care of it so I look good.

I know other women have noticed - which also has boosted confidence.

[Jmstl]

The pick up went well I guess. My daughter announced to W that daddy looks so handsome because he is going out tonight. The wife said "great!" In her excited voice. I simply told my daughter "That was private" and left it at that.

This morning was the real test. We cleaned out storage. I showed very little emotion, did not bring up the R at all. Only a few things solicited a reaction at all. Want your sex books and vibrator? No okay.

Only thing that got me was she tried to throw away every single picture of us, Including our wedding pictures. I looked at her and said "No, these are mine. I am keeping them for when the kids get older"

At the end, I said "I am going to festival of nations today, if you and kids want to go. If not, that's fine." She responded she promised D swimming. So I just see ya later got in the car and left.

My sister thinks she is trying to purge me so quickly and completely bc she knows she is doing the wrong thing in giving up. I don't even bother to try and get in her head anymore.

Also, she noticed my fitbit right off the bat. She asked how I liked it (same kind she has) just said "I love it. I am focused on getting healthy and making my own happiness, so I made a healthy choice.

[Jmstl]

So please, tell me what I did right and wrong in that scenario.