Not sure what else to do

[Jmstl]

oh, so when this started, she made a 'separation layout'. This was what I operated under, until she flipped the script a few weeks later and said she wanted a divorce

Reason for separation: to find a solution to our current state of sadness, stress, tension, disagreements, and fighting.

Goal of separation: structure and goal oriented separation to repair marriage; rebuild rather than dissolve the union

Separation plan: X and kids move to apartment this weekend. Y stays in the house until it sells. Everyday routine... should it stay as is and the kids just sleep at the apartment until it sells, then reassess? Or should we move to the schedule we dictated for the legal separation paperwork? I believe separation will:
provide time and emotional space outside of our romantic/love relationship to enhance each of our personal, spiritual, and emotional growth
provide time to identify individual needs and wants - basic relationship needs, including expectations of our relationship and identifying specific things as needed
provide enough emotional distance to separate my own (X's) issues from yours (Y's)
hopefully provide an environment, an opportunity, to heal our relationship and transform or evolve into a healthy, more loving relationship


So, what the HELL made her change her mind SO FAST? having a bit of freedom, means dropping nearly 10 years of marriage?

Gah, I am so angry right now. *Breathe, Breathe*