Not sure what else to do

[Jmstl]

How do I handle this?

My god man, you're a masochist.

If I'd been in your situation, my biggest issue would've been getting angry when my wife started pushing my buttons. When I'd had plenty of time to prepare for her onslaught of button-pushing, I usually did fairly well. I'd just validate or not respond if her comments didn't warrant a response. It's important to put some forethought into your responses to her standard spew. If you feel anger welling-up, then take a break and go get a snack and a drink or anything to give yourself some time to recoup.

Another alternative is to avoid cleaning the storage unit together. One of you could take the kids for a couple of hours, and then you could switch-off. I know that may not be practical, but if you anticipate conflict, it may be preferable.

Maybe I am.

I am going to try and detach. But I want to spend as much time with her as I can. Give her a taste of what she is missing.

I am going to try and be polite, and helpful where I can, but not go out of my way to bend over for her.