Why does it have to be bad luck as the reason you aren't remarried or in a LTR? Why can't it be it good luck you had time to find yourself, grow as a person and wait for the right situation to come around? Just because it's taken time to happen doesn't mean it will never happen, life happens on its own timeline for us all. I'm at almost 3 years and I understand part of the pain, so Im sure I'll relate to some of the feelings. Seeing people jump in and it all works out, or appears to. But does it really? No one really knows how healthy a R is looking at it from the outside. I know someone and on FB they appear to have a great and loving M and family. After BD I talked with her and we discussed things and it turns out she's one step from being a WAW. Appearance isnt everything and I think you've developed alot of the great qualities as an individual that people lack and never take the chance to develop. A R in time will come and you will be ready for it no matter what happens. Fight through the lies telling you something is wrong or it's bad luck.
I'd take 10 years on my own vs getting sucked into the wrong relationship, spin it to a positive even if it's not what you would prefer or happens to others.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
