Chris, sorry but I'm starting to fall behind on some of the sitches here, are you saying that she is asking you if it's OK to proceed with D? If so then tell her NO it is NOT what you want. DBing is not to interfere with the process if the WAS chooses to proceed, but it's also not helping the process along. If she asks you for info then provide it, but don't do any of the "heavy lifting" yourself. So if she is asking you if YOU want divorce, then tell her you don't. "W, I understand you want this. I do not want a D, I would like to work on the M to see it we can resolve our issues. But if you feel D is the only course of action then I will not interfere." Something like that.
