Well after she stated "I assumed that meant you were ok to move forward (with the D)"...I simply replied back
"I can see why you would think that; I am just thinking everything through" ...she responded with a "Ok I understand".
By her saying that; does that mean she is still unsure the D is the right thing? I am confused by this. Also, is my silence going to backfire. If she starts to get upset about my silence; will I just validate her feelings and tell her again I am thinking things through?
Right now I am trying to understand my total failures as a husband and list ways I can 180 them. But in order for her to see these changes, we will have to see each other (she currently lives out of the house). Do we only meet up if she offers the idea?
We have our first nieces bday party LaborDay weekend; and I was invited. Her family knows about us because she texted them saying we were splitting up. We have had the discussion of seeing each others families; because we are so close; she even mentioned she would not care if I came to the bday party. I do not know what the best move is here. My initial thoughts are to decline the invitation showing my 180 confidence, GAL, and self-dependence come through. I have been invited to go to a lake house with the boys; so I think I will do that. But do I tell her this is why I am not going? Or do I tell her I am not going (if she asks) because I do not think it will be best for me?
One other wrench...her dad who passed away years ago is also laborday weekend and is, every year a hard day for her. Do I stay in town for the bday party just to be there for her; or do I send her a text on the dads passing day? This is all new to me and confusing; because we have always been so close; its difficult to decipher between being detached but loving and supportive at the same time!
M:30 W:28 T:9 MR:2.5 NoKids Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16 Move back in: 1/17 BD: 8/15 She moved out: 9/1
