I saw your post on another thread, that your H has moved back in. I really hope you don't stop posting, and that you don't just allow everything to get sweeped under the rug.
Many, many reconciliations end up back in this situation because the real issues aren't addressed. I do hope you keep posting.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized