When Do MLC-LBS Officially Give Up?

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Found this thread useful, particularly 25's point about the real options.

Battering that 'teeny' bit of hope into the dirt that LouR mentioned is the toughest thing for me. Because my H just ran and stopped talking to me, I have no idea what he feels about me or our M. None at all. There was no conversation. He still won't say why he wants a D even now, weeks away from it being final. And that seems so weird to me after 18 years.

But the facts are that he filed for D, says he wants to 'move on' and is in another relationship. So, obviously, he doesn't want me in his future life right? Duh. I just find the WTFness of complete silence about his choice, and the contrast with who he was, a real barrier for me. And I'm cross with myself about that. Grrr