So this morning I think I got temp checked by H. I woke up to some texts about money issues. Then when I said ok I understand your frustration. Let's talk when you get back so we can come to an agreement that is beneficial to both parties. He realiszed he wasn't going to get me into an argument that way he turned it to how I treated him etc in the past. And I did nothing but validate and listen. I have told him that I am saddened by the events of this past year. But I respect his decision for full separation. I believe I handled the whole thing with poise and grace. But my question is. How do I deal with this bitterness in him? He still blames me for a lot that happened. And it is beginning to drive me crazy. I have owned my stuff that happened. And I have apologized. I even told him if there is anything besides apologizing that I can do to help him thru his forgiveness I can certainly try. But ultimately it ends with his decision and actions. He said that he is ready for the ultimate crash of everything. Meaning the division of assets and whatnot. So I said. What is it you would like me to do H? What do you want from me? His only reply was you never listened to me before why would I be stupid enough to listen now? I told him that yes I let my stubbornness and ego run my life. I realize that now. If I could turn back time and do things different I would. But I can't. I can only continue on from this point. And I'm ready to listen to what he has to say. But he never specified. So he never comes to me with concrete answers. So is this not temp checking?
