God does for us what we cannot do for ourselves

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I really think that the WS did not just have this crazy crises... I think they were probably pretty selfish or self absorbed to begin with, and once they no longer were benefiting from the relationship, or things were no longer easy for them they left and made a excuse, that justified doing so.

Yes, I think this is definitely the case with me. Looking back, I can recognise that selfish, self absorbed streak my STBXH had, right rom the very beginning.

Thats the reason they usually leave after LBS went through some sort of crises (sickness, miscarriage, death or illness)

And that's what happened to me, I became ill. Three years later, in 2000, he started on the path that would lead to S (that took five years in all, before S. Five years of increasingly disrespectful behaviour).

Anyway...

They were and are fair weather friends it just took some bad weather for us to fund out.

That's how I feel about it all as well...