What to Do?

[chris19]

In my above explanation I try to articulate what she thought the problem was. She explains she does not feel like we 'grew' together as one. More or less we just became best friends/roomates and not a strong married couple. We did not develop ourselves. We had an extreme lack of intimacy.

I have something else too. It is our first nieces birthday Saturday (of labor day - Sept 2); and even though she has already told her family thru text that we are splitting up; her family is super close to me. They did invite me to the party, and my W has told me in the past she would not care if I came because we are such a close family. Also her dad passed on Sept 1 so it will be a super emotional weekend for her. I am not sure if I should attend the party or not.

I am having a hard time figuring out how to proceed...this is difficult.