Not sure what else to do

[Jmstl]

Hey thanks for the great advice.

I have definitely started following it. I have initiated no contact with her, I am going out tonight for the first time in forever. I have lost almost 20 lbs.

I read through the pursuer and distancer post, and just last night, she sent me a message saying "I wanted to say, don't forget to pack an afternoon snack for our D". I simply responded "I do remember". To me, this let her know that I don't need her trying to still control my actions, when she left, and that if she wants me to thrive, I have to do that on my own.

I can tell she feels extremely guilty about what she is doing. I have never tried to make her feel guilty or say she was guilty. I simply would say "I can understand why you would feel that way"

I basically did all of the wrong things when she first moved out (Pursuing, talking to friends, etc) Now I am basically trying to go dark.

We closed on selling our house last night. The agent asked where we wanted the money to go, and she said to our joint (We are going to pay off some loans with the profits) I said nope, 50% is going into MY account straight off the bat. Her jaw just dropped. She is not used to me standing up for myself, and I finally started to, and I think she will realize I always appeased her, not to be a pushover, but to be a partner. Now that she is out of the picture, I am living MY life, and while she wants me to succeed, I don't think she will be happy to see me move on, even after telling me for months I needed to.