I dont' want to beat a dead horse. To clarify my post to you, which you really deflected from,
is that I don't believe you are enhancing your chances of a recon on the path you have taken. I think you are hurting the small chances that exist.
You seem to think I'm saying "give up", but I'm not. I am suggesting you change your course of action. It happens to be the same course of action you'd take if you really were to move on.
That is why I think it's wiser than hanging on and denying what has happened to your family.
When my h and I recon 10 years ago, it was partly due to my DB efforts I THINK---
if not for DBing I would have filed for divorce and h would either have done the work needed or we'd never have recon.
As it turns out, I absolutely mistook reconciliation as the goal, rather than a vital step towards a renewed marriage.
Can you check on some of the other questions I asked in my post?
Oh, and Keep posting.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
