I think the OM presence and how long they can keep up the fantasy on their end matters. These WW depend on these men to keep the fantasy alive. The moment the OM kicks them to the curb or they realize they don't compare to the LBS. That fog begins to somewhat clear. Your right about not focusing too much on the A. But in my sitch I can always tell when W was back in contact with OM. She would get closer to me and then suddenly would pull back. I check the phone records and they would be back in contact.
