180/LRT part 2

[dusty70]

holding,
One of my children has been to IC and the other two I believe go next week, all of them want to go. They have told me individually that since WW and I never showed any signs of problems that they don't understand why we are getting divorced, even though my S17 kind of eluded to the fact he thought mom cheated on me without saying it. Just like DB is not a one size fits all niether is how children are affected with divorce IMO. How can these people say the kids will be fine when none of them know my children and how close WW and I are to them. I'm sure all of them will help pay the therapy bills! lol

I despise when people say the kids will be fine. Especially when those kids or teenagers who are dealing with enough stufff. These people tend to be as selfishness the WS. This is why I plan on getting S13 in counseling next week. But I still need to give the bad news within the next day or two.what does your W have to say about this?

Tread,
My S17 will be a senior this year, he is lost more than ever! He has struggled with ADHD and depression and he has an addictive personality so I really need to be the "lighthouse" for him, he is looking for guidance that I need to do on my own now! I would say to get the counseling for your s13, the kids will tend to open up to a doctor more than mom and dad because I beleive they are blaming mom or dad for the hurt and won't necessarily talk to me. Good luck with your discussion, the absolute worst thing I have done in my life! Praying for you and your son!!

what does your W have to say about this?

I assume you mean the drinking, if so she really came across as it wasn't that big of a deal, she even said " I had some drinks when I was in high school" When she said that I just backed off because no matter what I said she wasn't on my side. I did send her a text the next day telling her that we need to nip this in the bud, I told her that she is not to buy any more alcohol! I do not want it in the house, if she needs a drink go to the bar!.