I've realized that the personality of your WS plays a huge role in this as well. If you have someone who is naturally stubborn, then going straight to detaching might be the best option. But the problem is the LBS isn't going to be ready to detach for months after BD or even years in some cases. Everything with Db'ing is trial and error. They time is on our side, but I am not sure how that really helps. It seems the WS view you tolerating their bs for weakness.
