25yearsMLC - 10 yrs Later I File D (pt 5)

[25yearsmlc]

Got a job interview! If it goes well, it'd still be a few months before I actually walk into an office and get a check. But it's a start and so far it's something I'd be interested in and value.

D20 has appointments with a T this week, and the MD next week. (The doctor increased her meds for now). Already she is less stressed, thank God.

We worked out college tuition and I got a school loan for the remainder of it today. So she's all set and that's a HUGE victory.

S31 helped this get done and d28 had helped her with her original college application (I was out of town when it was due). And I visited her east coast colleges with her.

So really it was a family effort - and h was not involved. Geez, I didn't think of it that way until the words were on the screen. H had no involvement until we dropped her off. I feel as if he cut her off partly b/c he really is selfish. Sure, punishing me and punishing her b/c she is "not supportive of h's happiness", contributed. But maybe he's just a jerk and doesn't even think things all out. (And no, it does not really matter.)

S31 texted us all (= me and the kids) about how this success was a "big F-u to h!" and S31 used h's first name, not title of "dad/father."

Then s31 added that it was my "time to kick a$$ in divorce court"...

They are angry at h. Yeah, I knew that before of course. But it made me sad for the kids (and h I guess) that they'd refuse to use his position of parent. Damn, that's ominous.

so the kids saw THIS school resolution as a way to fight back and feel empowered.

yes H cut d20 off for college and yes he kept all the backpay I was owed half of. (Yes that's a violation of a court order). But we handled it anyhow. So H does not control everything.

Maybe that's what s31 meant. I replied that I 'understand their views' b/c I did not want to pile on.

I think I have to just Let them have their feelings.

Now I'm back to GDC and job hunting. Court hearing in October is for setting a trial date or working out a settlement with h.

A weight is off my shoulders for d20 and can focus on my own future now. I feel hopeful.