the time it takes to make authentic changes is much more than a week or 4 days. Even if you think "it worked" it's such a short time.
HER time to process HER feelings and whether she believes you really are behaving in a new genuine healthier way,
is also going to take more time.
Like Sandi said, there is no magic bullet or sentence with the right words said in the correct order, that will solve all this.
(Believe me, I looked & experimented with the best wording, for over a year. I'm a L and am a bit of a wordsmith. And if I were in the Supreme Court, I'd have won. But I could not reach my h...).
Also, saying things to her like you regret taking her back or letting her back in too soon (which is not dumping her) is not productive or necessary.
To me it sounds indecisive and potentially even punitive.
Sorry if I read this wrong - and I may have, but it sounds to me as if you are (maybe subconsciously?)
using sex as a tool. If she refuses or doesn't feel close enough to you,
are you tempted to threaten her with filing - under the guise of an OM vibe?
I'm asking.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
