What to Do?

[chris19]

I have just finished the DB book, and and am buying the Remedy book today. We currently are living apart, so we do not look at each others history; but duly noted.

Since the separation and discussions have started; trying to think back, I believe I would be initiating the make up; because she was the one discussing how I was not giving her enough. So yes, I was the one who would "make the first move". Although usually I never felt it back from her. Mostly because I was not expressing what actions would make my feel 'loved'.

Ok, so to do the 180; I will remain dark. It is hard. It has been a week since she texted me last.


Yes, the lack of sex was defiantly the product of other aspects in our relationship. The lack of communication is killing me. But I know in order for a chance to make it better, I need to continue to LRT (and 180).




So my main concern right now is if my W texts or calls me; knowing her she might say something to the effect of..."Wow I can't believe you haven't called or texted me?" or "Why haven't you contact me, I can see you really don't care about us anymore"... something to that effect.

What is a good validated response I can provide her. We are seriously best friends before all of this. Even when she had the BD conversation, a few days later (last Monday) I had her over to go over all of our finances and bill, etc. B/c she took care of everything. I wanted to make sure; now that she moved out I had everything under control.