I am sorry if I missed this but what does "LO" stand for? Does it stand for "Limerance Other?" And why do you only refer to OM as "AP/LO" instead of just OM? I'm just curious. Could it be that you do not consider him or their A as a real R? Is it just too painful? I can't help but notice and wonder because I don't see this term in other threads. I also don't want your reasoning to prevent you from accepting the reality of their R and that it can, albeit unlikely, last for a long time. I know it's hard, but eventually it is something--and that she may never return to the M--that we want you to be able to wrap your head around.
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
