That is the tough part. You want to make all these wonderful changes. But you want to keep your WS as well. You these changes will somehow inspire the WS to turn back to who they were. Then you can make the necessary changes in your MR. We all chose to be with these people for a reason. I guess the main fear is that WS may end up in better relationship, while you never find someone that compares to the person they were. And the person benefiting from that is some dirtbag AP.
