I don't know where to start. But I can say me and my W have been married for 2 years. During last holiday season we/her decided to take a 3 month separation to find herself. She got involved in an emotional affair with a OM. She moved back in after the holiday season and I tried to change my behavior to show her I actually wanted us to work. Things from her end seemed to stay the same. She seemed disenchanted and uninterested in our relationship. We separated again for the month of July. When we came back together; and she dropped the bomb 2 weeks ago. We have been only intimate 2 times in the past 6 months, and only a few more times within the past 18 months.
Now that I have read DB and other marriage/relationship books, along with other articles; I understand more and more of "what went wrong" and how our actions fed off each other. That doesn't help now obviously, but what I am doing is starting my LRT/180 journey. She has moved out, and since she dropped the bomb, we have spoke twice and saw each other twice (the last time we spoke was 8/16). I am doing dark...but I cannot stand not saying anything to her. How long do I need to wait to reach out or wait for her too?
