Thanks Maika. Yes she is starting to listen and look around as if she just came out of a fog. Over the weekend she noticed several changes around the house that have been there for weeks.

Right now she's not really blaming me for anything. Honestly I think she's too hurt/fragile for that right now. We are talking like friends and things are quite civil. What I'm talking about are the little comments she made in the past which I took the wrong way. I now realize that she was trying to tell me how I was hurting her and how unhappy she was becoming. I instead heard her as being ridiculous and mean. I now realize this was not her intent. Therapy has actually taught me that I was hearing my overbearing mother not my W. This of course is very unfair to the W and I really want to validate/apologize for it. I have also learned that I was actually passive/aggressive at times as opposed to just beta. Again, I feel as though I should validate her feelings as they are at least to some extent justified.

BD: 5/28/17 "We're like roommates, there is no passion anymore"
Early October she is moving out so she can "think about what she really wants in life"
10/22/17 She's gone