I've really come to grips with the fact that my W is very hurt by my previous actions. I was a "beta" husband who did all the household chores and it was never good enough for her. Since the BD in late May I have realized that my passiveness was mistaken for not caring. I have realized that I was pushing her away (w/o realizing it) because of her negative attitude towards me. After spending time with her this weekend I feel the need to validate some of her feelings.

Suggestions on how to do this without taking all the blame?

BD: 5/28/17 "We're like roommates, there is no passion anymore"
Early October she is moving out so she can "think about what she really wants in life"
10/22/17 She's gone