Wow I thought my goals were more specific for me! Being more positive and outgoing (in general) , less pressured to worry about WW and our situation and such.
It amazes me how people perceive things differently. I feel sometimes I don’t explain myself well, I am detaching (can’t do more than leave the marital home and children) and don’t pursue at all BUT what I do do is show her this confident happy individual who is moving forward in the knowledge that whatever happens he’ll be okay.
Hopefully she will see the changes and start to wonder…
BUT I will not isolate her when she initiates a conversation, obviously I have boundaries (no talk about the A or her AP/LO) and no raised voices just someone who listens and validates her when I feel the time is right.
I will obviously never condone what she’s done and continues to do.
Thanks again.
Mark.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
