My husband filed for divorce

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UPDATE: H had texted me last week to see if we could meet presumably to discuss D. Previously had told him I wanted to get through my son's move before focusing on D, so I offered to meet up today on my day off. He said sure. Well, he never followed up with me to meet. I am really confused by this.

My son moving and H leaving has left me with a huge sense of loss. I was extremely emotional and anxious in the days leading up to the move. My brother came to help and on our ride back we talked about my situation. He was aware that H had left before in 2011, but I revealed another situation involving what H told me was just inappropriate emailing w/ a female online. He and my brother are/were friends, but obviously he's seeing some things in H that he never thought were possible coming from him. Getting his perspective left me feeling actually pretty good. I don't know if my H is having an A, but I'm not ruling it out, just also not focusing until I have proof. I also can't see another reason why he would cut all ties with me other than the occasional text. I haven't actually seen or spoken to him in almost a month. If he comes by the house, he only does so when I'm not there. He has taken no interest in the house and its upkeep (other than mortgage, for now) - all of that rests on my shoulders.

He's not around to see 180s or me GAL, so I don't know where this is going. If I continue to just wait to hear from him, how long is reasonable? He filed on 7/31 and possibly tried serving me once, but nothing since then. It may have been he was being nice and letting me deal with the move, but today's lack of response leaves me wondering.

My therapist knew I we were supposed to speak and he said it was appropriate for me to express to H how his actions have left me feeling. Not getting into the good/bad of the relationship or behaviors, just where I am at. Any thoughts on that?