Congrats Coly on getting through the anniversary day. The anniversary of our threesome commitment ceremony was August 9th, and I had a blast doing my own thing. Didn't want to let that own me.

It sounds like you're really shining these days and reclaiming a lot of your life. Good for you!

I agree with the advice of let D and H work out their own relationship. I bet you it's one of the ways he DOES pursue you, and he may actually have to pursue you directly in the future.

BD#1: "marriage is over" 9/14/2016
H in basement 24/7 with EX/OM
BD#2: 3/20/2017 I plan to move out "soon" I LRT
me: 42, H, 41, EX/OM, 37
D 10, Son 7
M to H = 20 years
EX/OM moved in 10 years ago