LOL, bttrfly! And...yes, I AM fabulous. Thank you all for your responses. I know so little about dating in general, much less online dating. Really. I never dated as teen, was never asked to a dance, and went on a very few dates as a young adult until I met XH at 22. I was always the lone girl hanging out in a group of guys...I'm sure that made me somewhat "untouchable" looking back...like having a bunch of protective brothers and always appearing to be taken. Interesting note and parallel to DBing: I had decided to give up on any guy actually ever being interested in me as anything other than a friend.
Why is it that when we give up, drop the rope, move on, whatever you want to call it; things start to move our way? Is it because we are forced to find a way to be comfortable with ourselves? More relaxed and less stressed about how others perceive us? We actually fall in love with ourselves...not as a narcissist, but as a person who has self-respect and authenticity?
I had been talking to an interesting guy online since the day I first spoke to the guy I had a beer with. My "ice-breaker". This guy, a biologist, seemed to be in no hurry to meet. We just enjoyed talking. He finally suggested we meet for coffee and...it was nice. He's very interesting and intelligent, has a good sense of humor, and we have a lot in common. No sparks flew, though. But I like him enough to see him again. Does that make sense?
I've also been talking to a few others who are interesting...one who is a lot of fun and has my same offbeat sense of humor. I'm enjoying this...and the attention and compliments that go with it.I'm not sure I want a relationship right now, but I sure needed the male attention.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
