I have no answers for you. Just be true to yourself. What is the goal in going to counseling? I only ask because my ex wanted counseling as a means to not be an active participant in solving our problems. He expected a therapist to do the work...... And when progress didn't happen, he raised his hands in the air saying "even therapy didn't work" thus taking zero responsibility for the breakdown in the m.
Thanks Pax as always :-). This is what I am worried about. She was all in with going but never followed through for months. Now she was so wishy washy about it I don't even want to go. My goal would be to work on this physical issue and any underlying issues so we could have a happy marriage. Her goal seems to now be to go and see *if* we can work this out. That slight difference is huge in my mind. My guess (and I here go freaking mind reading) is that there is a new man in the picture. This fits the pattern too perfectly. I don't even really blame her, I mean it's been over a year of nothing happening with us.
I am just so tired and beaten down over the last 20 years. I can't take it anymore. She just flip flops back and forth so much. ugh! I am really worried about this hurting a future relationship... I am going to be so freaking gun shy. No one is attracted to that! I am so done with this and my years and years of mistakes... no more!
Yesterday, we had no contact for a full day for the first time in forever. If this follows the typical pattern, I wouldn't expect any contact from her for days.
