New to the journey and thank you.

[Kylo]

So two questions:

1. I think I'm doing a decent job at detachment, but it kind of makes me low emotion. The book says stay upbeat. So I need to be detached and upbeat, correct? Am I missing something?

2. We have a family vacation with three other families in a month. The other adults know what's going on. My W is going. I'm OK with that, or with her not going. I'm thinking it is best for the kids for her to go. Is there any guidance on what the pure DB play would be? It may be too late to make this change, but I'd like to know.