I had a similar situation CityGirl. I met XH a year after he had S from his W number one. His S was 4 at the time. We dated for a couple of years then started living together. At that point, we decided I would stop taking the pill and we'd leave things in the lap of the gods. We were both in our late 30s at that point, but I never did conceive.

When he told me he wanted a D (he was heavily involved with OW in her 20s by now) - he said he loved me, I was beautiful and had been the best W possible - but he knew he needed a new family now. I think it can be one of the areas that the MLCer focuses on - and it can go either way - either wanting kids, or not wanting to be a family man/woman any more. Luckily for me (whilst I keep in touch with SS and his Mum) I don't really get to hear what XH and OW are up to - Yay!

Take care and try not to give him and his antics too much energy - just do whatever is best for you. Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus