Don't know why - seems quite unfair - but abandoned or widowed chaps seem to get casseroles and sympathetic ladies! I think us girls should get sympathetic chaps with toolboxes or spare wine personally!
On a serious note, nothing wrong with company and a bit of TLC - just make sure you don't make a complicated sitch more complicated or inadvertently mislead or hurt someone else, I guess. Certainly, having lost my father and my H at the same time, much as I love my girlfriends, I do miss male company and perspectives.
Me: 53 H:38 T:20 M:14 BD ILYB etc 10/15, H diagnosed severe depression S 1/16 PA 4/16 H filed 1/17
