Starting to see some genuine remorse coming from my W. I notice she tears up more often during our discussions. We talked this morning about whether or not she wanted to be at our house tomorrow morning to see the kids off. She asked if D5 knew that she wasn't coming with us to the beach. I said yes, and she started to tear up.
That is NOT remorse. It is guilt. The WAS will feel a lot of guilt, but little or no remorse. She is convinced she's doing the right thing, and she's convinced it's all your fault and that she HAD to do it. She feels bad at times, but she feels justified. Why do I make a point of differentiating the two? Because when she finally feels remorse then things may start turning around. But guilt, no, it's still full steam ahead with S and D.
