Get over your hill and see what you find there

[Treasur]

Well, I've just seen the letter from his L. She is basically arguing for a 50/50 split. Some way from what H verbally said a couple of weeks ago and a long way from what seems fair given that as a young man he walked into two properties and a lifestyle completely financed by me for the first 10 years. And given his financial behaviour. My L is on holiday until the 4th Sept so nothing will get resolved for several weeks yet.

I think he is coming out of the fog/breakdown, Own It, enough to want to stop hurting me, but as a different person who sees our M as a mistake and has no shred of love left for me. My secret hope? Not that he would want to come back, but that he would have a whisper of doubt I suppose. Enough to wonder if there was something worth trying for, but I don't think that's true. For whatever reason, I have to accept that he doesn't love me and sees our M as a forgotten bit of old history which no longer matters. I have to accept that either he now sees our shared life as a mistake or that he thinks it was a different him and not who he is now or wants to be.

I think when he calls I'm going to have to say to him that the financial stuff is going to be a stumbling block. We can either try to talk about next week and understand each other's POV, or it will all be delayed for a few weeks and we'll have to spend more money letting the L's duke it out. Or go to Court. Sigh. It would have been easier if he'd just said ok. The money can't make good what I've lost but he chose to create this chaos for us.