Still here. Still not detached...

[Jim1234]

I know just how you feel... you want her there, but at the same time, you really don't want her there.

I admit a perverse joy at the fact that my W really wanted to come to our niece's wedding, but I said "no" and she was upset by that. And even more satisfied when I found out she called the mother of the bride, and was told, "no", then, too. These are the consequences of her deciding she wants a divorce.