So not much happening. Because H is on vacation with the kids. But the other day he tried baiting me into an argument. And I didn't take the bait. I started to. But then erased the text I was starting and took a deep breath and validated and the situation calmed down and then we talked as friends. It did show me that he is still stuck on that mindset where he is the victim etc in all this. I have done a ton of work in the last two weeks while he has been gone and worked hard on myself. And I know that in the mindset he is in now I don't want him home. It wouldn't be productive at all. So I will continue to work on myself and if he comes back from vacation with the mindset to continue this divorce I will grant him it. I don't want to. But I also don't want him back the way he is.
