Get over your hill and see what you find there

[Citygrl]

Ugh. I hate all this so much! One thing I have learned is that life is a process. It has become my mantra. When it all hit and I was in a tailspin, things seemed to be moving so quickly (especially husband's now defunct OW1--or at least I think so. Could still be holding that candle). Anyway, I have learned that it is ok to slow things down as the situation is fluid and if you are in no financial danger and your gut says wait than wait. It gives you a breather. Yes, I know, I am no poster child of successful marriage!

If you already had financial disclosure forms swapped than you have an idea of what is going on. He can't start creating financial Armageddon. I am having exact same discussions with attorney. Lawyer feels we have been patient enough and our credibility will soon be in question if we don't act. Husband has not submitted financial disclosure which was due in March. Filing in court puts pressure to meet deadlines and will cost a bundle but sometimes it has to be done. So if you need to wait a few days or a few weeks to be ready for that, than wait.

It is out of our hands if they go for the Absolute. I don't know about you, but that is the greatest cause of my anxiety. I flip flop all the time: want it over and want my old husband back. Not doing anything in my case seems to give him security in that. Feel like I spend way too much mental energy on him and this. Are they delaying to hedge their bets or are they being financially sneaky?

OMG on the roundabout thing! Lol. Will look up where Liverpool Station is. Are you up North? I am southern Hampshire, an hour from London. Not sure what we are allowed to reveal.